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The Librarian  by Christy Sloat
266 pages
June 2017

He’s from 1892 England, she’s in a small library in 2017. And that’s just the start of their troubles. Emme never meant to stay in Maine. She’d come only to find a librarian for her Gram’s library, a custodian for the collection of mysterious books she’d promised to protect. On a dark, wintery night, alone in the library, she takes her first glance into one of the antique novels and finds herself transported to 1892 England staring into the eyes of handsome and dashing hero Jack Ridgewell. As each chapter passes she learns you can truly fall in love with a character in a book, that book boyfriends are real and Emme must choose between the real world, and his. When the last page is read he’s gone and Emme feels the cold loneliness of lost love. Will she find Jack again, or will their love be forever lost? The answer lies within the pages…

 

I have finished this book!  I liked the story.  It was a cute, fast paced story.   It’s a story.   Everyone is going to like some things about it and not.   I think it was a bit too fast paced and could have been written a bit longer.    I think Emme is a character that is trying to figure things out.  The other characters that come into play was rather interesting.     I think the author kind of squished everything together rather quickly.  It’s a story!  I am keeping this book on my shelf.

 

 

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Life and Death

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Life and death happens every day.

The reason why I am writing about this today is because it’s the anniversary of my father’s death.  It was quite unexpected and hit the entire family pretty hard.  I have realized it can happen to anyone and that we should treasure every good moment you have with family, friends, co-workers and even people you occasionally talk to in real life and the social media world.

I have seen death come slowly to those who are failing health and that is hard to see someone you know so strong to succumb to being so frail.   I think one can kind of be prepared for that aspect but it’s hard.  That person won’t be with you anymore and that you will miss them.  I saw this happen with both my grandmothers.   I rather think of them as strong women compared to the illness that took them.  One of them had a stroke as the other had Alzheimer’s.  My one uncle had a battle with PKD (kidney disease) and it was tough everyone.     Everyone reacts differently to this.   Some remain hopeful and make the best of it.  Others may change.  Some may not accept the fact their loved one is going to die.  It’s hard and scary.

I grieved for my grandmothers but I felt relieved for them. They were not to in pain any more.  Funerals are tough for some and for others they may give relief.  Each funeral is different.  My one grandmother’s funeral was in August as it was hot as the other was in January as it was freezing.    My uncle funeral was warm because it was in Georgia.  It is always warm there but the funeral was so nice and simple

I’ve realized life is scary at times.   The happy moments are the best though.   Am I being morbid talking about this topic?   Are people afraid of talking about this?   For some it’s too emotional to talk about, others move on and others just talking about it might bring some comfort.

Then there’s the aspect of death when it hits you in the gut.  This means a total unexpected death.  That was with my father.   I had seen this happen to two friends of mine and then it happened to me.   The way my two friend’s parents and my father, there was no way you could predict this. One minute they are here and then the next they are gone.   Whew.  It cuts into you like a knife.

Reacting to the way my father died, it was exhausting. I literally grieved right there and then after I heard the news.  I felt like I had an out of body experience or that it was all a really bad dream.   It took me a moment to realize no it can’t be real and then the sobbing came.   Everyone reacted differently to this.    I did not know the exact details because I was out of town when it happened.  That crushed me.   The rest of my family grieved in their own way.  I knew it had to be tough on them.  Everyone..I mean everyone that my father was in contact with literally could not believe it.    There were tons of people that came, sent flowers and everything.   I think it was over 400 people.   That’s how good of a person my father was.   Overwhelming!

He died in 2002 so today is 2017.   Long time! My life has changed.  I realize life also gives you good things such as my two awesome children that I love.   They have taught me quite a bit and I’m still learning.   I’m also figuring out who I am as a single mom too.  I am going back the whole being of me.   Plus on a path of figuring out myself.   Life can bring you happiness in little ways.

Some things that make me happy in life:
Birth of my children
Being a mom
Falling in love (hopefully again one day)
Going on adventures
Meeting new friends
Connecting with old ones
Family reunions
Finding good deals of clothes
Leaves falling down for autumn.
Nature giving out its beauty
Sound of the ocean
Birthdays
Dancing
Music
Appreciation
Positivity
And the list can go on.

Be thankful and try to find good in everything.   I’ve come to realize life is not a straight clean path.  It’s a crooked messy one.

 

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I spy these books today

I spy……..

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Influential Mind

A cutting-edge, research-based inquiry into how we influence those around us and how understanding the brain can help us change minds for the better.

In The Influential Mind, neuroscientist Tali Sharot takes us on a thrilling exploration of the nature of influence. We all have a duty to affect others―from the classroom to the boardroom to social media. But how skilled are we at this role, and can we become better? It turns out that many of our instincts―from relying on facts and figures to shape opinions, to insisting others are wrong or attempting to exert control―are ineffective, because they are incompatible with how people’s minds operate. Sharot shows us how to avoid these pitfalls, and how an attempt to change beliefs and actions is successful when it is well-matched with the core elements that govern the human brain.

Sharot reveals the critical role of emotion in influence, the weakness of data and the power of curiosity. Relying on the latest research in neuroscience, behavioral economics and psychology, the book provides fascinating insight into the complex power of influence, good and bad.

 

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Stick With It

An award-winning psychologist and director of the UCLA Center for Digital Behavior shows everyone how to make real, lasting change in their lives in this exciting work of popular psychology that goes beyond The Power of Habit with science and practical strategies that can alter their problem behaviors—forever.

Whether it’s absent-minded mistakes at work, a weakness for junk food, a smart phone addiction, or a lack of exercise, everyone has some bad habit or behavior that they’d like to change. But wanting to change and actually doing it—and sticking with it—are two very different things.

Dr. Sean Young, an authoritative new voice in the field of behavioral science, knows a great deal about our habits—how we make them and how we can break them. Stick with It is his fascinating look at the science of behavior, filled with crucial knowledge and practical advice to help everyone successfully alter their actions and improve their lives.

As Dr. Young explains, you don’t change behavior by changing the person, you do it by changing the process. Drawing on his own scientific research and that of other leading experts in the field, he explains why change can be difficult and identifies the crucial forces that combine to make transformation permanent, from the right way to create new habits to how to harness emotional meaning to motivate change. He also helps us understand how the mind often interferes with creating lasting change and how we can outsmart it, including using “neurohacks” to shortcut the brain’s counterproductive instincts. In addition he provides a powerful corrective to the decades old science of habits, offering a next generation discussion of how habits can change behavior with the right approach.

Packed with pragmatic exercises and stories of real people who have used them successfully,Stick with It shows that it is possible to control spending, stick to a diet, become more social, exercise regularly, stop compulsively checking e-mail, and overcome problem behaviors—forever.

 

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Train Your Brain for Success

Train your mind to achieve new levels of success!

Professionals and entrepreneurs do a great job of keeping up appearances. But if they’re honest with themselves, they’re short on living the life they really want. Train Your Brain For Successprovides the perspective to analyze how you got where you are and, more importantly, learn the skills to get where you truly desire to be. Train Your Brain For Success explains specific ways of thinking and acting that will get anyone where they want to go, fast. Learn to condition your mind to move towards success automatically, by discovering greater memory power and fundamental techniques for boosting reading speed and comprehension.

Get a proven strategy for succeeding and becoming a record-breaking performer.

  • Learn to live in the moment
  • Become brilliant with the basics
  • Aggressively take care of your mind

Train your mind for new levels of success by boosting memory power, reading speed and comprehension.

 

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Freedom Trap

In many ways we have never been more ‘free’. We are freer to follow our dreams, set goals and live the life we choose. Yet mental health issues are sky-rocketing. Anxiety and depression are rife and more people feel overwhelmed by daily living. We are more addictive, distracted and pressured. This is a world that increasingly seems to breed discontent. So, is all our so-called freedom nothing more than a trap of our own making? Are we, as the saying goes, simply decorating the cage that keeps us imprisoned? Does everything that flies under the banner of freedom actually promote it? What can we do to change the status quo?

The Freedom Trap is an inspiring call for clear thinking and a fresh appraisal of what our freedoms mean and can become. In this challenging, confronting and eye-opening look at what freedom actually is – examined from philosophical, psychological, political, social, legal, ethical, scientific, historical and neurological perspectives – mindfulness expert Associate Professor Craig Hassed explores how we can alleviate our burdens (our worries, regrets and material desires) and find a life of peace, happiness and harmony – true freedom.

Including practical thinking steps to help further your understanding of what freedom really means, this book is essential reading for anyone who has ever thought ‘there has to be more to life than this’.

Positivity

Everyone needs positivity in their life!

I was thinking about this today.  Everyone needs this. It should be all the good stuff.    I’m sure you are thinking that can be tough at times.  Everyone has their moments of being down.  Heck I have those moments and feel like crap.    Some people can snap out of it and some cannot.

How do I snap out of it?   I always tell myself tomorrow will be a better day.   I even think on the positive things that I have in my life such as family, friends, my children, and my interests that I enjoy doing.     This wasn’t always so back in high school.

Flashback:  I was so shy in high school and I had a hard time trying to connect with people sometimes.   I think some people were afraid of me since I’m deaf.   I just didn’t think I was the greatest person.  I just felt I was there meaning,  I went to school, did my school work and worked part time.   I did not really join any clubs. (Although I did try out for the dance group and didn’t make it…that was so tough).   I did not think I was the most gorgeous girl in high school (I still struggle with this at times to be honest.)    So what got me through was music, dancing, writing, reading and working part time.   Sure I had a few friends but we were all misfits in our own way.     I didn’t have a boyfriend at all but I had a few crushes.  Life went on.

Sometimes doing good things can make you feel better.  Everyone’s different.    You are not alone.   Everyone struggles.  Some people may look awesome but inside they are not. Some may have a hard day with work, their other, kids or health, you never know.

Today while getting my kids from school, I noted the golden leaves falling from the trees as it made me smile.  Nature has its way with beauty.   The sunshine was beaming as the weather was perfect.   I took that in as a positive thing.   Hearing how my children’s day go from school is the best.  I have found positivity in my children and there are some days where I’m like stressed out from them too.   (Parenthood is a tough gig!! Especially as a single mom!)  Other ways that I get positivity is from what I used to do in high school is dancing, music, writing and seeing how others create so many awesome things (art, dancing, modeling, being an inspiration to others).

Everyone is different.  I think people should find positivity in their life every day.  It could be from anything that’s good.     Coffee, chocolate, my children, sleep, adventures with my children, art, rainbows, dancing, music, sound of the rain,  laughter and love can all be positive.   The list can go on and on.    So think of positivity each day.  Strive for the best.  Keep trying (I’m working on this).   Keep going (I am doing this!) .    Bring positivity to your family.    Keep those around you that are amazing and that support you and that love you.   Spread the positivity to all.   Say a kind a word.  Open the door for someone.  Positive!

What are things you do that are positive?  Or what things make you feel good?   What makes you smile?  What makes you feel amazing?

(Sorry if I repeat myself in this post..I am tired.  I had a long day today…it’s a Monday.)

Music

Oh my gosh. I was surfing youtube today and saw that Evanscence is releasing new music and so was Tori Amos!!   I am excited.  Both of these performers are amazing.    I grew up with the 80s and 90s music.

It will be interesting to hear the whole new album.   Evanscence had the song Imperfection which I like a lot.  I had to pull up the lyrics to follow along with the song and just wow!!   It totally rocks.  She still has that voice.   Evanscence was my first real concert in the late 2000s.   I look forward to see if they tour or not!

Tori Amos has a new album coming out too.  I heard Reindeer King and it was amazing.  The way she uses the words to sing is breathtaking.  She’s a storyteller in her own whimsical way.   I am hoping she will do a tour so I can go see her in person.   She just rocks in many levels.

Oh oh Kelly Clarkson….she rocks too.  She some new stuff out too!   She’s a favorite of mine.  Favorite Songs: People Like Us,  Already Gone, Catch my Breath, Be Still, Stronger, Because of You, Since you Been Gone,  Mr. Know It All, Dark Side,  Walk Away,  and I loved her singing with Josh Groban  All I ask of you.

I dare wonder if all my money is going to go to the music for a while.  I used to splurge my money on music back in the day.

I have been listening to Christian Kane’s album Kane which is amazing.  It hits the spot of country and blues in a way with a bit of rock.   He has such a great voice.   I love the songs:  Making CirclesLA Song, Thinking of You,  American Made,  and Let Me Go. Plus he’ s hot in his own way.

I cam across Jerrod Niemann But I Do song which was pretty good.  Anyway I may have to get this song because I liked it quite a bit.

I must have a thing for guys and guitars.  I think it’s amazing that they can play so damn well.   It’s magical and sexy as hell.

I like all kind so music.   I believe there’s diversity in music.   It moves your soul in many ways.   Emotions kick in gear and you just fly high or low or all over the place.  I’m rambling!

There are times when I listen to the whole album that I like the whole thing or perhaps just one or two songs. Anyone else do this?

First time hearing music at an early age with the exception of children songs (Twinkle Twinkle Little Star or Mary had a little lamb..etc)  was:  Whitney Houston song Greatest Love of All,  Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers duet,  then Oak Ridge Boys (I think it was Elvira) and then some oldies that my dad used to play.     It wasn’t until 5th grade – Jr High School is when I liked the singer Tiffany.  I’m still a fan!   Then slowly Debbie Gibson and NKOTB and soundtrack of Footloose and so forth.  (Too many to list!  FYI: The 80s music rocks!)

Just a minute!  You are deaf!! How can you hear it?   I have no clue.  My right ear is shot and cannot hear anything in it.  My left ear has some hearing that I use really well. I have no clue how it all works…just does somehow.  No clue why I have a hearing loss either, it remains a mystery.   Anyways, I fall into the category of Profoundly Deaf.   There’s certain levels of deafness.  Everyone is not the same.  Sometimes some of us can hear this and that.  While others cannot hear that or they may hear other things.  Some are completely deaf.   With my hearing aid I can hear the beat and some of the instruments but as for the words that is the hardest thing to figure out.   I need to have the words in front of me to follow along with the song.  If I like the song and listen to it a million, gazillion times then I will probably have it memorized.    Now if I have my hearing aid out, I cannot really hear it and it sounds like a muffled sound.    I wonder if hearing people hear differently too?

Hopefully I’ll do more updates on music.. I love it!

Ever..

Ever read a book and then you just cannot finish it?

Pretty in Ink…I am about half way and I just do not seem that into this book for some odd reason.  Maybe because I have to much going on?   I think I am going to pause on this book and then go to another one to finish.  Perhaps I’ll come back to this one.

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